One day, I looked up and realized that I was the single friend in my group. I had never noticed it, but a large portion of my friends were in serious relationships. Being the single friend has never really bothered me. But, I’d be lying if I said some days I don’t sit around and wonder if I’ll end up dying old and alone.
I feel like with all the hype surrounding having a “bae” and seeing everyone’s cute Instagram posts of their #realtionshipgoals, it’s hard not to get caught up in feeling bad about being single. On top of that, holiday season is right around the corner and can feel a bit lonely when you don’t have a special someone to keep you warm.
If you do happen to be that single friend who feels a bit lonely, or is wondering if there’s something that’s personally inhibiting you from finding your own bae, stop. The reality is that there’s plenty of time left to find your future “soulmate”, and if you haven’t yet then maybe this isn’t the time for you to do so.
Being in your twenties is about much more than settling down and getting married before hitting 30. Take this time to enjoy bettering yourself and figuring out who you are as a person. At least that’s what I’m trying to do while I spend my time in singledom. Here are a few reasons why I’ve learned not to fret about being a single twenty-something.
You don’t have to deal with relationship drama
When you’re not in a relationship, you often forget about all the drama that comes with it.
You can take time to work on yourself
Rather than seeing being alone as a negative, view it as a time where you can better yourself. Develop new passions, learn new skills, stack your money or whatever you feel you can do to improve yourself. After all, I strongly believe you attract the energy you put out. So, why not work on developing the attributes you want in a partner within yourself first?
There’s plenty of time to get into a relationship
If you’re not married with kids by twenty-five like you thought you would be, it’s not the end of the world. I’m a strong believer in timing and that everything happens for a reason. So, don’t put a rush on settling down. Instead, enjoy where you’re at right now in life and focus on creating a better you. That way when you do finally meet your bae, you can hopefully attract someone just as great as you are.