For the past couple of weeks or so, I’ve felt a little out of the ordinary to say the least. Ok…if I’m being completely honest, I felt like my whole entire life was becoming one big flaming mess. Between having school, work, an internship, being involved on campus and attempting to schedule in a social life, I felt like I was being stretched in a million directions and was on the verge of never snapping back together. One random Tuesday was finally the tip of the iceberg and I finally lost my cool after being scolded by my internship supervisor (who was having a bad day). I held it together just long enough to make it to my car, but was able to finally release the mass of pent up stress and anxiety I had been feeling once I reached for my key and opened my car door.
I called my oldest sister, in tears, and was able to vent everything I was feeling to her. I told her how overwhelmed I felt and she simply listened, which was exactly what I needed. I didn’t realize that that was the first time I actually voiced my feelings to someone and let everything out. Bottling everything up inside finally forced everything I was feeling to spill out. I know I’ve made it a point to emphasize that, despite what we may feel, our twenties isn’t a time where we have to have everything together, but even I forget that. We all experience feeling overwhelmed from believing we have to do everything on our own and constantly keep on a happy face despite feeling as if our lives are falling apart. After finally releasing all the stress I kept inside, I learned a couple things about how to better handle my feelings the next time I’m a bit overwhelmed.
Talk about how you’re feeling
Part of the reason why I found myself feeling so overwhelmed was because I consistently bottled up my emotions until I couldn’t handle it anymore. I didn’t realize how much simply talking to someone about the things that were making me feel stressed out would make me feel better. Sometimes all we need is a shoulder to cry on (or in my case a sister to cry to over the phone) to make us feel a little less overwhelmed by what we’re going through.
Divide and conquer
Accountability is a great trait to have, so I’m going to hold myself accountable and admit that a lot of the reasons I stress stem back to my undying love of procrastination. I allow a bunch of tasks, that seem small, to eventually pile-up into a mountain of chores I can’t even begin to tackle. After allowing so many seemingly small things to pile-up, I had to break everything down and prioritize what was most important and tackle those things first. Feeling like you have to do everything at once can cause you to feel more stressed than you should be. Instead, try dividing up tasks and conquering them little by little. It’ll make all the difference in the world.
It’s ok to take a break
These were words I needed to hear from my sister (and luckily my spring break was that following week). I never feel like I can take a step back and collect myself for a second when I’m feeling stressed out. Instead, I end up stressing out more thinking about how stressed out I am! It’s always ok to take a break and gather yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes we just need time to get ourselves back on the right track.
It’s a bad day, not a bad life
I remember reading these words and telling myself to remember them anytime I feel like life is just too much to handle. Everyday isn’t always going to be the best. If life worked that way, the world would be a much happier place. It’s always important to remember that everything is temporary. With a little bit of time, I found my way to feeling less like my world was falling apart and more like things were finally coming together again.