Keeping the Spark Alive

Lately, my twenty-seomthing friends who are in relationships, have been complaining that their significant others have not been making them feel special. Yeah, sure they were courted in the beginning of the relationship, but now they feel as if their partners have gotten too comfortable. I know that dating as a twenty-something is difficult, you’re young, don’t have much money, and sometimes it’s hard to come up with things to do that are creative, exciting, and inexpensive at the same time. Here are some easy ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship so that every date doesn’t become a Netflix and chill session.

Get outdoors

This is something easy and completely free to do for us young and broke people out there! If your partner complains that they’re tired of staying in all the time, take them to the beach, go on a hike, or suggest going for a walk in the park. Each of these are fun and easy activities that don’t cost anything to do. To spice it up a bit (even though it may seem corny to some) have a picnic on the beach or at the park. If your partner likes being outdoors they’ll appreciate your effort.

 Get creative indoors 

Now on the other hand, if your partner is someone who enjoys staying indoors but wants something more than watching movies and falling asleep on the couch every night, you can get creative indoors. If you like having movie nights, make them special. Get popcorn, some of your partners favorite snacks and candy, maybe some wine (if you’re of age), and light some candles so it doesn’t feel just like another night of Netflix and chilling.

Cook for them

If you find yourself too broke to constantly take your partner on dates every so often, cooking for them is a great alternative. Making a meal takes time and effort and can show someone how much you appreciate them. Find a recipe that you and your partner could maybe even make together. It’s a fun way to spend quality time and you get to eat after. It’s a win-win in my book.

Put a spin on the classics

If you and your partner do go out a lot on dates, switch them up a bit. If you’re a couple who always goes to dinner and movie, maybe try going to a drive in theater instead. Finding small ways to put a spin on a typical date will make your partner feel that much more special.

Make an effort to spend quality time together 

There’s a difference between spending time together and spending quality time together. You can spend time with someone, and feel no progression in your relationship with them.   Making sure you’re making an effort to have meaningful conversations, ask them about their day, what’s bothering them, etc. shows that you actually care. If you also find yourself spending time with your partner only with other people around, set aside time to spend alone together. This can make a big difference in your relationship.

Use the resources around you 

There are so many free museums, small inexpensive restaurants, cute book stores and coffee shops, free concerts, and so on. I could go on for hours about all the free cool things you can find around you if you just use Google. Planning dates can become that much easier when you use your resources. Once, you do, it can bring that spark back into relationship that seemed to fade away.